Several years ago I read about a blogger who created her own personal board of directors. She used this board to help her decide on projects to take on or turn down. It was all in an effort to keep her commitments under control. She wasn’t good at saying no and she needed a group of people to help her define when she needed to say no, and sometimes say it for her.
Well, that wasn’t really my situation, but I thought it was a really cool idea anyway. Man, I thought my own personal board of directors would make me officially “important.” And I would like to feel important. Very much, I would like to feel important. This mommy-business is really good at making you feel rather un-important some days.
Years later, I was attending a conference with my husband where they discussed everyone setting up a board of directors for themselves, even me – just a stay-at-home mom. Wow! Really?
I wasn’t sold. What would I do with one, except walk around feeling important. But they insisted we do this exercise, so I came up with a few ways I could use one:
1. Help me turn work or volunteer projects down that aren’t beneficial for me. I have a habit of signing my name on any dotted line thrown in front of me only to ask later what it was for. It’s usually just heading something up.
2. Navigating kid-raising situations. Because, honestly, I have no idea what I am doing
sometimes most of the time and some sound, non-emotional advice on raising my kids could do me (and my kiddoes) some good.
3. Processing personal things I deal with. Baggage, hurts, concerns, you know “my stuff”. I got lots of stuff.
If you look at it this way, EVERYONE could use a personal board of directors.
You can see why I might need one.
If you are interested in creating your own personal board of directors, or PBOD as I like to call it, here are some guidelines to get you started:
1. Define the purpose for your PBOD. Think about what areas you need help with. Parenting, health and wellness, motivation, business, marketing, speaking…
2. List possible candidates. They never have to even know. Look at the people in your inner circle, people whose opinions you value and respect, mentors older and younger than you, people you work with, someone you aspire to be – or be like, people you trust, historical figures (they don’t even have to be living, seriously). Then decide if you are one that needs a broad range of perspectives, or a few close and dear.
3. Ask, or if you are like me your PBOD doesn’t even know they are on your PBOD! Don’t even ask just start going to lunch or coffee with people and talking. Build the relationship so that when you need it, it’s there.
That’s really it.
As an aside I thought I was “all that” when I put Jesus on my list until I looked over and saw several others at our table had him on theirs too (yes I was looking on other’s papers). He’s popular, but I’m sure he has the time for one more PBOD if it’s yours.