Today, I just need to laugh…
Some days, it fits! Have a good one. XOXO
One of the first projects I did in our new house was the craft closet. It started out as a bare closet with wooden shelves on the right side. I purchased a shelving system from Lowes and installed it in a few hours. I did this entire thing myself ladies, it was that easy! Then I labeled some tubs that I already had and organized away.
Once every few months I have to go through and re-organize, throw away, and straighten up but now that I have a system that is all labeled – it is much easier. This weekend I tackled the clean up in here and as part of my house purge, I got a rid of a lot of junk that had accumulated. Here is what it looked like when I was done:
My favorite part of the closet is this over-the-door shoe hanger that I turned into a wrapping station. Now I can always find the tape, scissors, wrap and ribbon! Ahhh. If you like this you can find a million great ideas on Pinterest.
Now for a few before-the-clean-up pictures…
Well, one thing is for sure, you have to keep track or you will have no idea what’s going on. Those little sneaky sneaks will tell you they definitely made their bed every day this week and you won’t have any idea if they are telling you the truth or pulling one over on you. You got to keep track.
However, I find that all systems begin to tire over time and stop working. They stop working either because you get tired of filling out the charts, or the incentives aren’t incenting anymore. One way or the other, it becomes old and boring, so you have to keep things fresh.
Bribes, threats, punishment, rewards, treats, money, toys…I have tried it all to get my kids to happily do their fair share of the household work. But the fact is, I don’t always do my chores with glee either. And, like my children, I have been known to procrastinate a less-than-exciting task hanging over my head.
So, we should understand when our kids don’t run toward the chore-at-hand with dancing feet and smiling faces.
The goal is to teach them how to be a part of a family. We all pitch in to do the work that has to be done, so we can do the things we want to do. That’s why I do them. Because If I don’t have clean towels, I don’t enjoy my shower nearly as much.
I used to really dislike going to the grocery store. I had panic attacks in the snack isle and broke out with hives in the frozen food section. But it is a chore that has to be done. So I used to treat myself with a home magazine after I finished a big grocery run. After I had put all of the groceries away I would allow myself to sit down and peruse the pages getting inspiration for my next project.
Maybe my kids are the same way. And maybe they deserve a little treat at the end of their most disliked chore too. It doesn’t have to be food, just something to look forward to.
After taking all of this into consideration I did away with the threats, and bribes and sympathetically approached this as a fact of life. These things have to get done and as a family we all pitch in.
First, I divided the house into similarly sized areas. Each child was assigned an area, or areas, they need to clean. One child has the front living room, another the family room, another the sitting room. Then I divided the basement, where all of our toys are, the same way. One has the kitchen area, another the dress up area, another the bins, etc. And each child is responsible for their own bedroom and bath.
Second, I divvied up the after dinner chores: everyone takes their dishes to the sink, one wipes the table, another sweeps and so on.
Now, here is how I ask them to get them done. While these techniques aren’t perfect, it enables me to stay calm while allowing them to take responsibility for their part.
Chore Time. With the younger kids, ages 5 and under, I use a time technique. I tell them that 4:30 p.m. is chore time. And at 4:30 before I start dinner we clean up together. Since they require more supervision this gives me time before I am elbow deep in dinner prep. Often I will take the mail with me and sort through or read the latest catalog while I watch them cleaning. Otherwise, I help them out. Once they are done, and in order to keep my house from getting totally trashed again, I put a show on for them while I make dinner.
Chore Deadlines. With the older kids I give them a little more autonomy to choose when they do their chores. They have to have their areas clean before they can go out to play after dinner. This gives them all day to decide when to do them, but a firm deadline with incentive following the deadline. For the ones that put off their chores until after dinner I like to use statements like, “feel free to go outside and play once your chores are done.” or “you are welcome to play with your friends as soon as your chores and completed.” So they have a deadline, but room to choose – now or later. There is incentive to complete them with the opportunity to play after dinner. And there is a consequence of not getting to play after dinner if they don’t get it done by that time.
Of course I always have to check, because they never get them done well, never. My husband and I share the checking responsibility and sometimes I will have them check each others work. If I don’t have time to check and they did a bad job, the next night they don’t go out at all.
5 Minute Clean Up. There is one other technique I use now and then. I call it the 5 minute clean up. I use this when the toy room is really messy and no one wants to touch it. On these days I grab the kitchen timer, or the iPod and put some fun tunes on. Then we all clean as much as we can get done in 5 minutes. Then we stop – and leave it. We can make some decent progress in 5 minutes and the next day it isn’t as daunting. I just did this one the other day and we had the entire basement cleaned up in two evenings of 5 minute clean ups.
What do you do?
Laundry. The never ending chore. I don’t dislike doing laundry…when I do it. It’s just a pain to stay on top of it. And then when it gets out of control it’s overwhelming. Unfortunately, this is something that can happen very quickly in my house.
With each additional child the laundry grows exponentially and it is not a chore you can consolidate. It’s just one, big, continuous chore. Some people like to do it all in one day, others have a weely schedule. I have tried it all. So here are some ideas that I have found work the best for this family of 7.
You may, or may not remember how my small kids were destroying their closet – daily – for months. Hopefully you don’t. I had to barricade their closet so they couldn’t get in.
This was obviously a temporary fix. I just can’t live with chairs out of place and bad traffic flow patterns in rooms. It’s just not OK with me. I like rooms pretty and functional and right.
Over the past few weeks I have spent time cleaning out closets. This wasn’t your typical closet clean out where you go through everything, fold or hang it nicely, throw out a handful of items, and walk away feeling “successful”.
This was an all out purge. The purgiest purge you ever saw.
First, I put all of the winter clothes in bins. Away they went to be stored until Fall. Every long sleeved shirt, long pair of pants, tights, sweaters and jackets. I only left a pullover or sweatshirt for chilly summer evenings.
Second, I went through their clothes and donated any item I didn’t like seeing on them. Shorts I think are too short, shirts that are ugly, dresses that don’t make me smile. Anything I deemed inappropriate because it had shrunk in areas we wish it hadn’t. All of those items my kids always want to wear that I just don’t care for. You know the outfit, you’ve seen it so many times you want to burn it. Gone.
Don’t worry, they won’t miss them. They haven’t even noticed. They still have more than enough.
So now our closets have about 1/3 of the clothes they used to have in them. This was a real clean out. The mess they make is only 1/3 of the mess they made before. Thank you. I never have to tell the smalls to go put on something more appropriate for the weather because it isn’t in there to put on in the first place. And I never have to worry about them coming down in an outfit I wish my friends didn’t have to experience on them.
This was time well spent. Really well spent.
I had a garage sale this weekend. In my room. With my 5 children. You know that pile of stuff I had ‘picked up’ for them over the past month? Well, I told them they could buy back anything they wanted. One dollar per item. They made some interesting picks, especially the smalls. I wouldn’t have saved it, but that’s their business. Of course they could only buy as much as they had money for – which made the picking all that more difficult. But I think it turned out the way it should have in the end.
As you can imagine there was still a lot of stuff left over after the picking was done. So I shifted and sorted and this is what I came up with:
I had 1 tub of garbage. This was all the things that had no business in my home or anyone else’s. Torn clothes, broken toys, doodled on papers, worthless stuff – it was trash, rubbish, waste.
Then I had a second tub of items to donate. Nicer clothes that my kids won’t wear, toys that they obviously don’t care about (and neither do I). And – BONUS – the donation truck came yesterday – excellent timing.
The third tub was a spur of the moment decision on my part. There were things that the kids didn’t care about, but I did. And I could not bring myself to throw them away or donate them because I had paid good money for them and we might need them again. Or better yet, they might ask for them. Oh, then what would I do? I would feel compelled to buy it for them AGAIN. Things like: Hats for costumes, Hawaiian lays for a luau, a game, and a bucket of legos. I have no idea why the Legos weren’t important to someone. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised, when you have soooo much of something what’s one more bucket full? And they’re right, who would care? This bin, I will put away in a storage closet for now.
The forth contained clothing items that don’t fit anyone right now, so I will keep them for hand-me-downs later. Fair enough!
I’m thankful to have my room back! It looks so nice and clean.
But this whole process was harder than I thought it would be. It was really hard to get rid of stuff I had paid money for. I felt guilty for having so much extra. I felt guilty for buying it. I felt guilty for not teaching my children to take better care of their things.
In the end I realized I needed to no only purge our home of the excess, but more importantly I need to make a shift in my thinking and my habits.
This will be the hardest part because this way of thinking is pervasive in our culture. Everyone is doing it. We are almost wired this way. Work so we can get the next thing. Things will make us happy. Having an organized, perfect home will make us happy and peaceful.
But it isn’t working for me. It doesn’t bring me peace and rest. I’m more frustrated and frazzled because of all the stuff and even when I organize it to death, it’s still a time consuming job to keep it that way.
To change my habits and way of thinking would be a massive shift. And I’m not even sure what exactly that means right now.
So, for now, I will continue to rid my home of the excess and ponder ways to keep the “stuff” from coming into our home in the first place. Some of this may be my purchasing habits, and some is not.
I would blame this on my acute sense of smell, but since so many others have told me that their washing machine stinks too, I can’t rightfully claim any super smelling power this time. My washing machine smells musty and stinky.
Does yours smell too? Don’t lie.
Lucky for us, this is an easy fix. Took me 3 minutes today!
That’s just what we need right now, something easy. I have read all sorts of things about these front loaders and their stinky smells. You can clean them with vinegar, bleach, baking soda concoctions. But I like this:
This is all I used. One tablet in the machine and then set it on the hottest setting and let it run. Easy and done.
It gets rid of the smell for a while, but it always comes back. I also find that if I leave the door open in between loads it helps too. But from everything I have read I understand this is just an issue with these front loaders. Oh well.
One more day of this crap, and tomorrow is going to be a good one!
The front door. I rarely come in mine. I use the back door almost all of the time. In fact, I don’t even have a key for my front door. But it is the first thing my friends and guests see when they come over. So it’s a place that I would like to be warm, welcoming and clean.
Not filled with cob webs and bug droppings like it was before I cleaned it up today. That’s disgusting.
My front porch still needs some design and style work but for now it’s clean which is better than unclean. Here is what I did:
1. I took a wet rag with some soap on it and wiped off the columns around my door along with the screen door casing and the ceiling (apparently bugs crawl around up there).
2. I took the magic eraser to the screen door because it had something undefinable on it that the soapy water wasn’t touching.
3. I swept the cobwebs from the ceiling and around the door. Then I swept the floor and corners really well.
The job took 20 minutes today. Now I need some friends to come over so I can experience relief instead of anxiety as I open the door, knowing they will not be standing on bird poop, at least for now.
Good luck, my friend!
Thanks for sharing your progress with me. One of my favorite comments so far was from a woman who’s father handed out soapy rags every Saturday to the kids so they could wash their fingerprints off the walls. Hmmmm, not a bad idea…
Windows get overlooked in my house all the time. They are a pain to clean. The actual glass isn’t too bad to clean, its the casing and the outside that overwhelms me. But I realized that every time I walk in the back door of our house I see these two windows that have collected so much dirt and grime they are making me want to vomit. And that is no way to come home.
So today we are going to clean that window that really bothers you. Only choose one (or 2) we aren’t talking about getting out the large ladders and climbing up to the second floor or anything. Let’s not go overboard here.
What you need:
1. Small broom or brush
2. Sponge or rag with warm water and a small amount of mild dishwashing liquid on it
3. Glass cleaner and some paper towels
4. A step stool (if you are short)
What I did:
1. First I removed the screens and brushed the dirt and bugs away from the sill and around the sides and top of the window casing.2. I used the sponge to wipe off the caked-on stuff that was left over. I did this on the sill, around the casing and the bottom of the glass where dirt had settled.
3. Then I used some Windex to make the glass shine.
The project was easy and fairly fast. It took me about 20 minutes, but a lot of that time I was trying to control the paper towel usage of the two smalls. I let them clean the glass and they used half of the bottle of Windex on these two windows alone while one of the big girls was lecturing me on the irresponsibility of even having paper towels in the house. Oh well, I’m trying.
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